February 10, 2006

I AM an Introvert… And Glad for It.

We introverts are a put-upon clan. We live in a world of noise, cluttered by the racket made by a world that confuses content with quantity: verbiage rather than substance. We are not shy, just reserved. We are not without social skills, indeed ours have to be more finely honed as we live in a world that is, by its nature, hostile toward our preferred way of being in the world. However, why would we care what the world thinks? Our impressions are born within and do not seek to be validated from without. It is good to be an introvert. Moreover, not only an introvert, but also an INTP. Damn, life is good.

Jung’s Typology of Personality
I am a proud INTP. Yes, we are the rarest of people. We are those whose motivation is drawn purely from within. We live in a world of intuition, able to think in terms of metaphor and to see shades of meanings. We live in a rich world of thought and we see endless possibilities. We are the dreamers, the creators, the philosophers and the architects. Ours is a world of potential that does not require us to be tied to any dogma or any tradition. I like the Webster definition of introvert: “the state or tendency toward being wholly or predominantly concerned with and interested in one's own mental life.”

It seems that the artistic mediums to which I have been most attracted – photography and music – are the sine qua non of the INTP. It is not surprising that I prefer music that is harmonically iconoclastic (Ornette Coleman, John Coltrane, Gerry Mulligan) to music that is linear or predictable. I like Satie because his music just doesn’t care about expectations. It is for its own sake on its own terms. Very much as I am.

Socially Astute
I have always said that introverts live in two cultures; the larger extroverted American culture and, what is more important, the culture of our minds. I have learned to be very flexible, how to speak and survive in an extroverted world, all the time wondering if they have ever savored a moment of silence in their lives full of noise that they confuse for content. I wonder how they live in the din and how they can parse out what is valuable for the excess of verbiage. I know how to speak and how to live in the world, so much so that many people think that I am extroverted. But my energy is drawn from within. I love a moment alone, to listen to Bach on the cello or enjoy a beautiful poem. It is not that we are anti-social; I think that we are anti-intrusion.

I admit that I have a mighty need of time alone. This feeds my soul and allows me to find the energy to be in a world of sensory assault.

I am an introvert, and proud. I am self-sufficient without falling into the myth of the solipsism. I am able to be with others and content to be alone. I am the paradox. I am an introvert.

4 comments:

Anonymous said...

I am liking this trend of the Introvert's Personal Manifesto. I think it is rather telling of our marginalization that so many of us write about the ills done on us by our gratuitously gregarious society.

I am an INTJ, a rather similar personality type. I wonder how often an extreme extravert is paired with "NTP" or "NTJ"? My boyfriend is an ENTP, but he's a very borderline extravert -- more of a slightly expressed extravert with many introvert qualities. But I digress. I think the point I was trying to make is that we can definitely be happy with different people -- even extraverts! Wait, maybe it wasn't that. I kinda left this open overnight so I could finish developing my thoughts, but they seem to have flown the coop.

I think I might have been trying to muse on the frequency with which the "NT" appears with I versus E. It seems (from my admittedly limited polling sample) that it appears that I is more frequent. I think I was bringing Cory up as a counterexample, but even he isn't a classic extravert.

Have you done any of your own research of the sort?

Stacey

The Dancing Fool said...

I dated a Jungian therapist. She got me interested in Jung's typology of personality. I am by no means expert with this theory. I know of two good books: "Please Understand Me" by Kiersey Bates and "Typology of Personality" by Carl Jung.

I am amazed when I see that we tend to moderate the lesser parts of our personality as we age. I have become more extroverted as I am in midlife. I find that my very developed "T" has shifted toward "F", though I remain an NT. Curiously, I still come out as a pure intuitive.

Here are some interesting statistics:
75% of the population is extroverted.
75% is S rather than N
N/T are almost evenly split
J/P are almost evenly split.

Now... can N types get along with S types? We have to. The same is true for introverts with extroverts. Most authors that I have read note that this is descriptive not proscriptive. It is not to say that an S type cannot get along with an N type, but that they will have to work on a common language. And, some cross type encounters helps to develop what we "lack" and find in another.

My comment is as long as my posting!

Hoping that this does not confuse the issue more... I am an INTP, I strive for clarity, even at the cost of comprehensibility!!! ;-D

Anonymous said...

Hey, I think I'm one of them too! I feel I'm able to understand widely displaced concepts, but not able to properly explain then with words. Then again, I might just be crazy. Anyway, well written post! Nicely poetic.

The Dancing Fool said...

thanks! i appreciate your input!