Friends without Names

I try to respond to my friends that leave comments. It seems only fair: they have taken the time to put their thoughts down. I should, at the very least, acknowledge their effort and respond to their thoughts. A couple of days ago I posted about differences between MM and myself (more about that below). A friend that chose to remain anonymous shared some rather heart-felt thoughts. I shared them with MM. I read and reread the comments. No, good friend, I do not expect MM to be the relationship. That is a valid concern to have raised, however, and I thank you for doing so. I suppose that I have focused on what is problematic in this blog more than what goes well. MM and I have an incredible relationship. There is much that is so wonderful about this woman that loves me unconditionally that is not recorded in these web-pages. She made the comment that we both have been there when the other was in crisis and did not leave; we've committed ourselves to each other and stand by the other no matter what. That is the real stuff of our relationship. I suppose that reading the comment brought this to light as we discussed what my anonymous friend wrote. Whatever our differences, we will work them out because we are committed to each other and love each other.

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MM and I did have a conversation about setting a home up. We both feel that now is much too soon. Maybe in the future. I suppose that we are more on the same page than we felt. We did talk about what we feel for each other and how we are together. I am in a place where I can say that I see her as a life-partner. She is not yet in that place. That does not mean that she won't be. She just is not now. She did note that she is committed, loves me, and is dedicated to me. All of the qualities that a good couple would share are present in those statements. It is hard for me to think that it has only been seven months. We feel like it is much longer.

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We both have been through relationship hell. It is something of a miracle that either one of us is willing to risk faith in another person again. For me it is not risking faith in anybody else, it is putting faith in her. That makes all the difference.